Hi Cynthia,
I thought I would respond to some of your questions, since I work in computers, just as you have.
A brief history: I had a stroke in January 2005. Soon after, was diagnosed with Moyamoya on both sides. I had my surgeries with Dr. Steinberg in May 2005.
I had my stroke while driving home for work. My boss thought something happened that day to trigger it, but in reality, there were many symptoms before then where I didn’t think to go to a doctor. (He and I joked that it was actually the most stress free day I had in a year and that must have caused it!). While I fully recovered, I went back to work way too early, only 2 weeks after I got out of the hospital. As you probably know, our line of work requires lots of overtime and can often be a stressful environment. Stressful is an understatement for the looney bin that I have worked in for the last 3.5+ years (You feelin’ me Lore!?!?!). I had a co-worker who made my life hell. I had co-workers who “pretended to care about my health”. I thought there was support, but in hindsight, the reality was there wasn’t any, with the exception of flexible time from my boss.
There were positives – I had/have good health insurance. I can take off as needed, to deal with tiredness and headaches (that don’t happen too often these days, but when they do, my boss understands that). I have flexibility too, but all of this comes at a price. It just means I work more, because I can work any time.
I’m not as sharp as I used to be. Focus and concentration require a lot from me. After my surgeries, I went on disability for 10 weeks. Upon returning to work, I had the benefit of my mom helping me out for a while. But still, I had to retrain my mind to put up with the pressure. In the end, the demands were the same, but _I_ was different. And that’s very hard for others to understand because it’s what I call the ‘invisible’ problem. They don’t see me in crutches, or slurring my speech, or anything physical. I live on my own, I drive on my own, so they think nothing is different.
So, how did I handle it? I think I made the mistake of trying to prove myself…to really no one but myself…that I was the same as before. So I took on workload after workload, and in the end, I was working seven days a week to keep up, and doing so by working from home. I worked last year on Christmas Day and New Year’s Day with a house full of people!!
So, I’m trying to make it easier. I am still in the process of reconsidering this type of role. I had a discussion with my boss two months ago. He tried to put more work on me and we almost had it out because I said if I take it on, I’d be back to working seven days a week. And honestly, I’d say it’s fair if everyone else was working that way. But others are taking similar, if not less, workloads and working five days a week. So I took issue with his proposal. I said he had a choice – I go on disability, quit, or he keeps my workload to a bearable size. Of course, he chose the latter because he needs me to do the work.
In the end, it comes down to environment. I wish I had a more supportive environment. I think a change is inevitable for me though, if not for anything but to keep my sanity. Russ makes a good point – sometimes taking a more simplified position is worth it. I make good pay, but I also rely only on myself. Considering a less taxing job with less pay may be a good idea.
Regarding post surgery, I’ve had a few TIAs…but they are few and far between and for very short periods of time. As far as hobbies, when I’m not working, I try to stay out of the sun, drink lots of water, and I’m trying to get back in shape but it’s been slow going. I’ve heard it depends on the type of shape you are in before surgery on how you handle that after surgery. I don’t know if that’s true or not, but I’ve seen evidence of that with a few people, including myself. Also, I only had one six month follow up with Dr. Steinberg after surgery (all thumbs up) and I have annual check ups with my local neuro (no formal tests though). Dr. Steinberg said to only contact them if I have any major problems, and keep them updated on my progress. I occasionally send emails asking for advice (i.e. – NO SKYDIVING ;

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I hope this helps. Whatever you do, you know yourself best. Make choices for yourself that will make you feel most comfortable, without overdoing it.
My thoughts are with you as you progress with your recovery.
Hugs,
Trina