Hi Mel,

Welcome to our MM family
I’m so sorry you had the need to find us, but so glad you did. There is so much information here that will help you understand this rare disease, and some wonderful people that will be help you in any way they can. We all understand that fear, God love ya, and you're not alone.
The best way to conquer that fear is knowledge. If you arm yourself with knowledge about MM, when you come across the lack of experience in the medical field, they won’t be able to steer you in the wrong direction like we see very often. The more you learn, the less scary it is, because you’ll learn that this disease CAN be treated successfully with an excellent outcome, IF you go in the right direction and get the proper treatment with a doctor that has experience treating this disease.
What bothers me is, if you had a stroke last year, I’m sure you had to have tests, (or you should have) but then to find out a year later you have complete occlusion on one side and extreme blockage on the other side, and MMD was just now diagnosed??? That is soooo upsetting to me and shows the lack of knowledge and experience still out there with MMD. I was beginning to think it was being properly diagnosed more often. What a crying shame. Did you ask your doctors how many MM cases and surgeries they’ve done treating MMD? I believe experience is vital.
As far as explaining it all to your daughter, it must be hard to do at 10 years old, but I feel, IMO, it’s good for them to know. Again, knowledge is the key. If you understand it, it’s comforting. I explained it to my younger niece (8 years old) like I was helping her with her homework and I explained how blood circulates to the brain and heart like plumbing goes to different parts of the house, that’s how they work properly, and you know how you can get a blockage and it can get plugged up at the sink or toilet? Well, you have a blockage in a pipe just like that, and it needs to be fixed, so just like the water needs to flow properly through the pipes for the sink or toilet to work, you need your blood to be able to get where it’s going for your brain to work properly and the doctors want to fix those pipes. In our case, along with the spiritual aspect, it seemed very comforting to her and the fact that she knew what was going on. Also, on a added note, if your daughter were to show signs or symptoms of MMD, the more she learns about it as she grows older, the better and less scary for her. I hope I explained that so you know what I meant.
It isn’t that the information is contradicting, the facts are, they just don’t know yet. The cause of MM is unknown, but because it tends to run in families, researchers think that MMD may be the result of inherited genetic abnormalities.
And about having your daughter tested, what bothers me is, the doctors there did not diagnose you with MMD until it progressed dangerously, so how would you feel confident that they would pick up on it in the early stage for your daughter? If you are ever in doubt, you have an option to mail a copy of your daughters’ films to a MM expert for a second opinion. (One who deals with MMD on a daily basis) Getting a second opinion from an expert is very wise when dealing with a rare disease. They contact you after reading your films with their expert opinion, usually for free, and then you’d know for sure, because you’re right, prompt and early diagnoses is vital.
It’s hard to recommend a certain post because there’s so many, but I will recommend the videos DJ has, they are very informative. He has a wealth of information under “
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Please know you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. We’ll be right there with you in spirit on the 15th. Please keep us posted.
Mar