Michele wrote on Aug 2nd, 2009 at 1:52pm: [quote] Like I have said before, there are many of us who have NOT been treated by a "specialist" and thank God we are all among the living! Not one of us has rolled over and died, imagine that!
I say, thanks be to God, you are very fortunate, but sadly I’ve met and spoken with far too many MM patients over the years who are NOT still among the living, and I know of countless more patients whose lives has been totally destroyed or seriously damaged because their doctors’ were not experienced enough with this rare disease. The medical community is getting better every day, thank God, but not fast enough for the ones about to stroke or hemorrhage because of one bad call from their doctor due to the lack of experience that’s still out there. That’s all it takes. So, we try and give the best advice and support possible to hopefully avoid that from happening to anyone, and by advising a second opinion with a MM specialist who has the most experience with this rare disease, from their research, testing, and studies of this disease, makes it the best we have to offer any patient at this time, in a medical community with no guidelines and where they’re still learning about it. Having traveled down this road, it’s our duty to give all members the best possible advice we can, but whatever those members do with it is their choice for whatever reason, but we still have to continue to do so.
You quoted Masonsmom when she said:
masonsmom wrote on Jul 10th, 2009 at 11:11pm:Also everyone here makes it sound like the only way you can practically survive is if you have a specialist in MM... so when you cant see one its very hard to deal with. Everybody wants the best care possible.
Certainly everyone wants the best care possible. My god, that’s all anyone wants. If Masonsmom thinks everyone makes it sound like the only way you can practically survive is if you have a specialist, well that’s her opinion and she’s entitled to it, but it certainly doesn’t make it true, and in all honesty, it’s far from the truth. This forum proves that. Lmom stated it perfected in her post above, I can’t say it any better than that.
Michele wrote on Aug 2nd, 2009 at 1:52pm: So, what are people in this situation to do? I was in the same situation when I first found this forum, and I know exactly how this feels.
My opinion then, always has been and always will be what I’ve said all along… to learn all you can about MMD and to seek a doctor who has as much MM experience as possible. It’s the best advice you can give any MM patient or their family, IMO. You can only hope and pray that happens. That’s all you can do.
So I don’t understand your post or your point at all. No one can help it if you or anyone in this country doesn’t have any health insurance to go to a MM specialist. Sadly there are millions just like you, but that shouldn’t stop us as a support team from trying to give the best advice possible to others, just because you can’t go to a specialist. Knocking a number one specialist on a medical forum where he can save lives isn’t very supportive at all, but rather shows lack of respect and integrity. You should be ashamed and embarrassed by it. When your angry about not getting the care you deserve, I can understand that, but possibly harming others because of it, isn’t right, IMO. Your undercurrent probably knows that already as well.
Michele wrote on Aug 2nd, 2009 at 1:52pm: [quote] BTW, People who are treated by the specialists can still have problems after surgery, i.e. strokes, TIA's, bleeds, etc. Just thought I'd throw that in there since that rarely gets said either,
It’s stated in MANY posts throughout the forum, that there’s a risk with any type of surgical procedure, that’s just common knowledge and doesn’t need repeating, but helping a new member learn about this disease and the percentage of success with a MM specialist is vital information. There’s life saving decisions in these facts. Dr. Steinberg having done over 500 successful surgical procedures, and having over a 95% success rate, whereas the percentage of success with a doctor that has little MM experience would lower that success rate drastically, as facts have shown in the past. I personally would want ALL the facts available, so I could decide if I should go with the higher percentage of success for myself or a loved one or not, but if you can’t, you just do the best you can in your situation.
All the supportive members here just want to help other members get the best care possible, in hopes that every member has the facts as we know them to help them base there decisions on, whereas you’d rather knock an excellent surgeon, that could perhaps sway a member from a life saving decision, just because Stanford would not do your surgery for free. That’s just too sad and unproductive on a life saving support board. How does your original post help or support Macmommy? They want the best possible care for their niece, that's their decision and their choice, but yet you’d rather post and ask what do you do if you can’t get a specialist, and try and knock me for trying to help them. It’s plain to see you totally missed the whole point Lore tried to make in her post about helping others here, but perhaps you can’t help it, so we’re certainly not offended by your position, but rather saddened by it.
I’ll keep you in my prayers.
Mar