Becky
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Stroke10/03, Diagnosed6/04, Unilateral Surgery9/04
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Minneapolis, USA, usa, 303, 84, MN, Minnesota
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Steve, Welcome to the Family. I am sorry to hear your wife is struggeling with the change. I was diagnosed after a stroke at 22 my surgery was my 23rd birthday present, and now I am turning 30 soon.
I was strugeling with depression and "evil" taughts before my surgery, and slightly after it. But this sight let me know I am not alone and there is always someone I could talk to.
I uesd to have issues using my stroke side of my body but the isses have decreased over the years to the poing where it is only when I get overly exausted I can't use them well. My daily headaces have decreased over the years as well to about once a month.
Secrete to my sucess: Love, snuggels/hugs, and getting to know the new limits my body can do. The support of my family and friends treating me like I was normal (with the watchful eye for any issues) helped keep the evil thaughts at bay. Also every time I had a "woe is me", why and I not normal", I just want to crawle in an hole and die" my husband would tell me to stop it. 1) your alive so God(which ever you believe in or a hight power) wants you to live. 2) You are loved! 3) There is always something to do even if you can't do what you used to the memorys are still there to be cherrished. 4) Your alive.
I work 40 hours a week as an engineering aid. I go to school part time working on my BS in Electrical engineering. I have been married for going on 8 years. I may not be able to sky dive or be in a moshpit at my favorite band's concert but I am alive.
Since she is still having issues, you may want to see if she needs another surgery or mediation. No one shoud suffer.
I hope this helped, Stay strong, Stay positive, Becky
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